Many of my friends have lost their sense of self once they have children. Every email I receive and conversation I have with them center around their children and todler friends, parties, and daily acitivities. It gets a bit annoying, I would say. They seem to be totally absorbed in their children's development. Would they not develop properly if they were given a little less attention? Give the children a break. They are kids after all and need time to grow and experience life.
For those overly concerned parents out there, the early childhood programs for the state Department of Education have developed a comprehensive list that shows typical abilities to age 5. This standard is meant to help families and child-care providers understand the natural development of youngsters and activities they should be doing through age 5. I know there are parents out there who are fearful their children won't become the geniuses they are meant to be and push their children too hard. Or they could be at the other extreme and not care about the development of their children at all. Read more.