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May 30, 2003

Single Dads Score with the Ladies

British poll found that almost 40 percent of women would have sex on the first date with single dads. That's because single dads are perceived as being more prone to developing long-lasting relationships. Single child-less men are not as appealing. They are seen as narcissistic. Read more.

Internet Offers Muslims Alternative to Arranged Marriages

Marriage is about compatibility and love. Many muslims are using the internet to sift through the available singles to find their ideal mate. There is more choice now. It's a break from tradition that will take some getting used to for the older generation. Read more.

June 20, 2003

Fornicating Under the Starry, Starry Skies

Sex outdoors is all the craze. Horny Japanese are having sex outdoors -- on the streets, parks, stairwells, anywhere. Sounds like great fun. No need to hide or look the other way. People are catching everything on tape. Many high school girls videotape themselves and charge people to check them out doing it outdoors. They do it for the money and thrill. No need for the pimps. Young people make their own porn to distribute and people are buying. Read more.

June 21, 2003

Love Conquers All: Mixed Marriages Rising in Shanghai

No boundary is too great. Fathers speak to their son-in-laws in broken English. One culture is struggling to understand another. Love brings them together in Shanghai, which is a fast growing city of mixed marriages. Foreigners are settling in China with their spouse, rather than go back home. Read more.

July 11, 2003

Sex Education for 5-year-olds

Teenage pregnancies are a problem. In England in 2001, more than 38,400 girls under 18 became pregnant. An annual report by the Independent Advisory Group on Teenage Pregnancy stresses the importance of teaching children throughout primary school about sex and relationships. In an effort to reduce the rate of teen pregnancies in England, the advisory group believes that children need to learn about sex and relationships from an earlier age. Starting at age 5 is young enough. Read more.

July 20, 2003

Do you Love Me or Me? One Man's Quest for Love and Truth

She didn't know it, but Mr. J that she has fallen in love with on the internet is her boyfriend in real life. Hsiao Lan's 20-year-old boyfriend, Huang Tzu-heng, dated her on the internet to see if she truly loves him. She betrayed his trust by not telling him about her internet romance. When she tells him she has fallen in love with Mr. J, Huang committed suicide by burning charcoal in his bedroom. Alas, the fantasy is always better then reality. Or is youth just foolish in love? She has failed the test but he's lost his life. In a suicide note to her, he wrote:

"Do you remember your Internet friend? That is me. But I never thought our love would have such an ending."

Read more.

July 29, 2003

Learn the Art of Dumping Your Lover

People all over the world have split with their lovers, wives, husbands in the strangest ways. Last week, an Islamic court decision allowed a Malaysian man to serve a divorce on his wife by text message. It doesn't get simpler than that. Julia Roberts, Newt Gingrich, Lorena Bobbit (remember her?), and Henry VIII have made the list of the strangest and cruelest ways to dump that special someone. Read more.

February 23, 2004

Learn the Rules of an Affair: Cheat without Getting Caught

We all get a cheating heart now and then. When that urge becomes unbearable, plunge in, but be careful. One woman from New York writes about her affair with a co-worker and how she managed it. Keep it simple, nothing in writing, cash only, or get a new credit card are among the many precautions she kept. People will cheat. They do it for three main reasons, she wrote: to transition out of a marriage; to stay in a marriage; or because they can't stay monogamous. She will tell you how it's done. Read more.

June 2, 2004

Shinto Priests Caught in Sex Scandals with Virginal Shrine Maidens

Even priests need some loving now and then. The lastest sex scandals involving Shinto priests and virginal shrine maidens come out of Japan. From Kasuga Shrine, one of Japan's oldest and most revered Shinto places of worship, inappropriate sexual relationships are surfacing. Like any other sexual scandal, females are depicted in a negative manner. One maidan was called "filthy" and "unclean" for having sexual relations with a priest. What would you call the priest? Is he not equally "filthy" and "unclean"? Read more.

July 5, 2004

Boy Toys: Sexual Chemistry between Younger Men and Older Women

If you are an older woman, you can have plenty of fun with a younger man. Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher are doing it. They've made it fashionable -- younger men in relationships with older women. The benefits are plenty: fun without commitment, and sex with more experienced and wealthier women. Both male and female partners have a great time without many of the hazzards of relationships between people closer in age. Keep it fun and exciting. But, when it's time to end it, end it. Note of caution: Make sure your boy toy is over 18. Read more.

July 8, 2004

True Love is Hard to Find: Britney Tries One More Time

I am spreading more gossip again...is there such thing as true love when there's a hundred million involved? Britney Spears seems to think so. She has refused to sign a prenup with her fiance and dancer, Kevin Federline, because this time she is marrying for love. Remember, there was a time when her marriage lasted a few days. It seems like all she needs from Kevin is love. The gossip columns are reporting that she paid for her own 5-carat engagement ring, $40,000. With all that money flowing freeing, I wouldn't mind marrying Britney for love either. The perks for Kevin: As long as he continues loving her, he is on her permanent payroll. Sounds more like Britney is buying herself some love. Read more.

September 10, 2004

Get Your Healthy Dose of Sex at Least Once a Week

Most women want and enjoy sex just as much as men. We should be able to admit that and not feel "slutty". We can't let the men have all the fun. We do not exist to serve men (as some men still believe is the role of women in the bedroom and elsewhere), but to share in the sexual enjoyment of sex.

The recommendation is those of us in a long-term relationship to sex at least once a week. But how many of us are having sex at least once a week? For those who are sexually dissatisfied, what is the problem? Drugs don't seem to help. Drug companies only wished they did. In fact, drugs seem to be part of the problem. So we should learn to stop popping pills as solutions to our problems. There are healthier alternatives. Try communicating with our partners about our needs. So what causes sexual arousal for women? And what turns women off? Sheenah Hankin outlines three leading causes of sexual turn-offs for women:

1. Fatique
2. Troubling Feelings
3. Antidepressants

Read more.

September 11, 2004

Forever in Love: Letourneau and Fualaau Plan on Marrying

"We still have the same feelings for each other, times forever," said Vili Fualaau. It sounds like he could profit from taking more English courses. I was puzzled by what the "times forever" meant. He was referring to his feelings for his former 6th grade teacher who was served 7 1/2 for having sex with him. She was convicted for child rape.

After all those years of being apart, they still have strong feelings for each other. Is it a love that's meant to be? Can it work out, now that he's a consenting adult? Or are his feelings characteristic of an abused child who is drawn to his abuser? The psychological impact of what has happened to him cannot fully be known. None of us can erase the past. We can only progress forward with time. It's a shame that Letourneau couldn't wait until her student is of legal age before having sex with him. She has lost valuable years of her life in jail. Her student/lover is all grown up now. It's remarkable that they still want to be together. I wish them both luck in their new beginning. Read more.

February 27, 2007

Women: Unfailing Sex Machine of Our Time

The gender gap is clear when it comes to sexual relations between men and women. Males and females brag about their sexual exploits in different ways. The factors they deem as important tell much about their outlook and attitudes towards each other and what sexual contact means to them. Read more.

February 28, 2007

Girls' Changing Attitude Towards Oral Sex

Why are girls on their knees? What would bell hooks say about the changing relationship girls have towards the male penis? Is it still a weapon of oppression or has it become friendly? Girls' attitudes towards oral sex have changed from past generations. They don't even consider it sex. It has become just something to do for some girls. What is really behind girls' attitude toward oral sex and sex in general? Read more.

November 5, 2007

How We Met

Everyone has stories of how they met their lovers. In this stop-motion animation, a stickwoman and stickman traversed the bodies of two lovers, on each part, telling us the stories of how they met and fell in love. They did their thing to music by Son of David. It's touching, funny, and creative. Aaah. How nice.

February 8, 2008

From A Womans Perspective Episode 1

Dating could be scary for those women who have been out of practice. One woman, who recently entered back into the scene shares her experience and thought on men who play games and who are intimidated by strong, confident, and good-looking women. She thinks men should take the time to approach women in a respectful manner. It's a sign that they take them seriously.

August 4, 2008

Girls are like M&M's

KevJumba is no longer a cute little boy. He's all grown up and interested in grown-up issues like dating and marriage. He's college bound, where, he wouldn't say. He talks about his interest in keeping his options open when it comes to dating. He doesn't discriminate based on color, even though his parents would want him to marry an Asian woman only, so they could have Asian babies. Fortunately for all you girls out there who have the hots for Kev, he's into variety. He enjoys all colors of M&Ms, as he pops a handful into his mouth. Yum! :)

September 8, 2008

How To Find Love By Internet Dating

The world can be a lonely place if you haven't found love and companionship. The dating sites understand this and creates opportunities for people to communicate and hook up. They allow people from different backgrounds and physical locations to get to know each other. However, the anonymity of the web makes it hard to determine who the person of interest really is on the other end. Be smart about internet dating. Be clear about who you are and looking for in the other person. Be careful but have fun. Life is enchanting with love.


September 19, 2008

Why Lovers Cheat

One man writes that his wife of four years has been cheating on him with her boss. Troy offers her perspective on cheating. Why do lovers cheat on each other? How has one been disappointed in the relationship? What happened to the trust, honor, and respect? Troy invites us to think about ways we've been cheating ourselves. When we do not uphold high standards for ourselves, we cannot expect others to live up to them. Interesting thoughts.

September 30, 2008

Does Size Matter?

What leads to great sex? Does size matter? Does intimacy matter? Kicesie addresses the frequently asked questions and insecurities regarding size for both men and women. She cites averages for the male erect penis of 4.9 to 5.1 inches long in the U.S., and for the female vaginal canal of 3 to 5 inches deep. These figures matter little. It's more about an intimate connection we share with our lovers. It's about loving and embracing our body. Here's to passionate and loving sex.

October 1, 2008

Sex: When Do We Peak ?

The sex drives of men and women peak at different times. Males peak at 17, whereas, females do so at 30. This is when sex hormones are highest. Perhaps the difference in sexual peak contributes to the rise of the older female and younger male couples (think Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore.) They may be more sexuality compatible. That's hot, hot, hot. As Dr. Brooke Bennis says, it's about embracing our body and being comfortable in our own sexuality. That means we can have great sex at any age, as long as we love our body and ourselves.

January 27, 2009

The Date

The preparation, anticipation, and let down of a date unfold as the female character in this black-and-white video displays her emotional state for all to see. It's stunning to watch and the story is well told. It's love that we all pursue. It's love that evades us. How do we possess someone's heart? How do we give unconditionally to love? How do we get hurt and discarded in the process? These are all chances we take in life and love. Keep loving!

March 9, 2009

Foreign Soil

Jeff Simmerman followed his heart to Australia to meet a woman for a first time. He told in vivid details their online dating experience. It's a familiar story by now. Many lonely hearts have found flourishing love despite physical distance. When there's the right chemistry and sexual intimacy, there is no distance in relationships. There is just pure joy and excitement.

May 5, 2009

How to Flirt Like a Pro

In this light and fun video, Tiffany Smith teaches us the art of flirtation. She highlights some main points: body language, mirroring, and the sense of smell. Have fun flirting!

May 15, 2009

How to survive a long distance relationship (LDR)

To live in a state of love is what most people want to achieve in their life. We naturally want to connect with others. Relationships could be difficult, especially long distance ones. Tiffany Smith discusses how to survive long distance relationships, LDRs. Statistics show that there are over 14 million couples who live in different cities. Remaining social is important to the survival of an LDR. Remaining faithful could pose a challenge. However, even the greatest distance will not prevent love from blooming. Spring is here. Love is in the air. Love and be loved! <3

June 3, 2009

Listen Sister, Don't Date a Hipster

Advice from women to women...never date a hipster. The singing trio, Menage A Twang, shares their dating advice in their song and video. It's hilariously entertaining and creative.

January 4, 2010

Dating Deal Breakers (3)

It's important to know what we want in a relationship. One woman talks about her deal breakers in dating. For her future husband, the deal breakers are organ donation and homophobia. Most of us have issues that we could not accept in our relationships. Identifying and allowing them to guide our decisions in dating and selecting a husband would hopefully lead to more compatible matches. Happy dating!

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